In my last post I shared with you how I used to spend $3,000 on Christmas. That money sucking tradition is over. I really don’t want to do that again this year. Since I have so many nice new things in all my storage bins, I decided to do some regifting and make some crafts for gifts. A friend of mine gave me the idea that she was making gifts this Christmas. So I decided I would do the same things since I have an obnoxious amount of craft supplies on hand. Bonus it helps me follow my number 1 rule of “I need more things going out of my house than coming in!” As I was going through my craft supply bins, I found wreath wire, burlap ribbon, buffalo plaid ribbon and Christmas picks. I had bought them all at deep clearance last year. I made a beautiful burlap Christmas wreath for my Ladies Cookie Tasting and White Elephant Party for free! Well, sort of free, from money spent last year! In the video link below I shared a few regifting treasures and made a personalized Martini Shaker and Glass set for another girl’s Christmas dinner.
Cleaning out this hoarded toy room is going to be a 10 part series! If you read yesterday’s blog post, you’ll quickly understand why this room is so hoarded! Since Santa brings 25 presents per child and the rest of the family follows suit in giving an additional 10 gifts per child, the value of toys make sense now. This year we are scaling back on gifts. If I want this toy room to finally be functioning, I cannot have another 50+ toys cluttering it back up. Plus, I now realize how wasteful this is. My kids don’t even play with all the toys. It could be from a combination of they can’t get in the room and there is just too much it’s overwhelming. I think all of the hours everyone had to work to afford those presents to just sit in a room, waiting for me to sell them at 80% off or donate to someone else. This is a new Christmas! A Christmas of enjoying experiences instead of buying more stuff. Below is a video of the progress we are making in the toy room!
It’s time for a confession: Santa brings the 25 presents each child for Christmas. Now before anyone screams out profanities, let me explain. As a child growing up in the 80’s, Santa brought me a minimum of 25 presents. It was like waking up to the Toys R Us Super Toy Run! I ran downstairs to see a plethora of gifts, candy and toys! Ohhh…it was glorious! I played with those toys until they broke. Jem & the Holograms, Barbie, She-ra and My Little Pony all hung out at Paradise Estates & Crystal Castle under the tree. I grew up thinking that was normal. So as I got married and had children, naturally Santa brings them 25 presents each too. And they have the same reaction I did…it’s like Toys R Us threw up all over the Christmas tree. It wasn’t until my brother-in-law pointed out that this was an insane amount of presents to give. He grew up with 5-10 presents under the tree with one of them being big. My husband experienced the same. He just let me do my thing because it had made me so happy. After talking to different people, I found out how excessive I was in my gift giving. This is so shocking to me. With Black Friday only 3 days away…I have decided to scale back this year. I will have to tell my boys that Santa will not being bringing as many presents as he did before. Big kids get bigger stuff like PS4 and iPads so it will be more around 10 gifts this year. I need to teach my children that this over consumption for Christmas is not okay.
We recently just had our Fall/Winter Sharing Table at our mom’s group. It’s a wonderful way to declutter and get new items you may need! Each mom brings in outgrown clothes or items from their children (or themselves) They put the items in the designated area so it’s organized. At the end of the meeting, we get to “shop” for new clothes. All leftover clothes go to charity. Ironically, I run the Sharing Table and keep it very organized! So I do have the capability of organizing my home! But it teaches me a great lesson when it comes to hoarding: it’s better to give than hoard. Sounds cliché but the joy of giving replaces the anxiety of letting go.
In this confessional, I am going to explain why it’s not a good idea to throw away a box of junk behind the hoarder’s back. It will backfire on you if you think you are helping them. It feels the same as a person sneaking into your wallet and throwing away your $100 bill. You feel disrespected and now you don’t trust that person anymore. Now I know you’re thinking a $100 bill is worth way more than a box of random crap. But to a hoarder, it feels the same. We overvalue all of our stuff.
Value is determined by how important an item is to a person. A hundred dollar bill is worth a lot and a lot of people attach value to it. A box of random crap, most people don’t attach a high value to it. But not the hoarder…the hoarder had over-valued their box. So it feels like a lot of money to them. Plus if they find out that you threw that out, they are about to go into a panic attack of which box you threw out. It doesn’t help, it actually makes things worse. If you want to help, be encouraging, be patient and be empathic. The hoarder has to be ready to change!