I decided to get on the bandwagon and try the KonMari Method to clean out my hoard. I watched enough Tidying Up episodes in Netflix to get the gist of it. First I have to pull every single item of clothing I own and put it in one spot. Little did I realize, I have 8 bins worth of clothing plus a closet and drawers that I can FIND. As I piled my mountain of clothes onto the couch and floor, I quickly regretted my decision. This triggered my anxiety to a five alarm panic attack status. I want to cry, I want to hide, I’m overwhelmed…what do I do with all of this??!! I started picking up each article of clothing asking, does it start joy? Well you know it does, I’m a hoarder! I have attached a memory, a story, a purpose to these clothes! This make me happy and I feel safe surrounded by my fortress of crap! That’s why I still hold onto it all! The decision making process was torturous as I felt I HAD to get rid of some of my clothes. I captured the event in this Part 1 video:
I shared before how Santa brings 25 gifts to each child for Christmas. This year is going to change. I know from past Christmases I could easily spend anywhere between $2,500-$3,000. This totals everything: gift-giving, dinners, parties, decorations, Christmas shows and experiences. Some of that would go on my charge card and some was cash. Luckily that’s all that is on my card and I could have it paid off by March. It’s crazy how fast one little holiday could add up to. The gifts to the children alone would be about $1,000. This has got to stop. Remember Susan Powter and the ” Stop the INSANITY!” slogan. Yeah, except I don’t need to lose weight, I need to lose this idea that I have to make the most magical Christmas every year. One could never be less than the previous year.
This Christmas will be focusing on being more frugal and enjoying the experiences more. Whether it’s visiting the local Tree Lighting ceremonies or taking the kids to see the local house lights in our area. No more expensive Christmas show, Train rides or Gingerbread Houses with Santa. Seriously, there was a make gingerbread house with Santa event and it was $50 per child. The second child is $10 off. So for $90 my kids came make a crappy cookie house and see Santa for 5 minutes. Sorry, I really dislike making gingerbread houses!! But the point is that I am going to focus more on fun frugal Christmas experiences this year.
As for presents, I have so many ladies’ dinners that have a white elephant present exchange. So $20-$25 gift limits there. The only positive thing about being a hoarder is: I have so many really nice new home décor that I have squirreled away in my house. I think it’s time to become a re-gifter or make a pretty craft with things I have. Luckily I am very crafty and bins upon bins of supplies. So that is how I am starting my December 1st! Vowing to cutting back on the cost of the holiday season and enjoying more family free experiences!
This weekend was super busy between hosting Thanksgiving, Black Friday shopping and decorating our house…I’m surprised I’m still functioning. But after going downstairs in the basement, I realized what was waiting for me: bins upon bins of Christmas decorations that I need to haul out. Ugh…I’m too tired, why do I have so much? Now don’t get me wrong, I LOVE Christmas and my house looks pretty all decorated but it’s so much work! My intention is to downsize some of my Christmas decorations but I am very emotionally attached to them. Those decorations tell a story of my Christmas during that year. This will be very hard for me to let go but I will take baby steps! I have to because I don’t want to look through 20+ bins every year!
Thanksgiving is on it’s way and I am hosting this year! You know what that means to a hoarder?! It means people are coming over and you gotta hurry up and put all that crap somewhere! You know what else?! I added remodeling my cabinets, pantry and backsplash too! In this video I am going to show you what my hoarded kitchen looks like and the progress I made thus far!
In my journey of healing myself from my hoarding habits, I’ve found a few things that worked and a few things that have not worked. So far, one simple rule I made has been the most successful. That is why I named it my Number 1 rule to stop my hoarding and clutter in my house. It’s simply: “I need more things going out than coming in.” That’s it, very easy! It’s basic math really and holds a lot of truth. These past years in my house, I had way more stuff coming in and hardly anything going out. It’s time to reverse that equation. And to do that, I must restrict my shopping. All the impulse buying, yard sales, Facebook Marketplace, the Sharing Table and freebies had to stop. That’s what I have been doing and it’s working! I have three completely cleaned rooms now. Currently I’m working on my fourth room. If you’re a hoarder and you want to give this a try…I would start with something as simple as ten things going out versus one thing coming in. Don’t pick things that are very sentimental to you, I don’t care if it’s 10 pieces of paper. As long as you grow the habit of getting rid of things in your house, more things are still going out than coming in. Even if all you can handle is five things going out versus one thing coming in. Baby steps still move you forward and even if you are walking slowly, at least you are not walking backwards.
November and December is a season of charity and giving. Everyone seems to be more open to service and helping the community during this time. I participate in two charities now in November. The first one we packed snack and toiletries bags for Robin’s Nest. That is a local shelter for runaway or troubled teens to live and be safe. The second charity is Operation Christmas Child. We pack shoeboxes filled with toiletries and toys for children all over the world. Charity is really therapeutic for my hoarding. It helps me see the good in letting go and giving to others in need. As a hoarder I hold onto things because I feel anxiety if I let it go. On the opposite spectrum, I feel joy of letting go if I know someone else is being blessed by it. I feel such a love come over my heart when I know I am doing good for the community. It is this transition of joy replacing anxiety that is helping me heal from my hoarding.