When I was doing week 2 of the Minimalism Game Challenge, I started to feel the pressure of letting go of my stuff. I have already let go of so much stuff the past few months and now I’m forcing myself to keep up with letting go multiple things every single day! During these higher days of getting rid of 13 things on day 13 are becoming stressful. I can feel my anxiety creeping up as I search the house for treasures to discard. I’m not sure how I am going to make it through week 3 & 4 but I’m going to keep moving forward! Below is a video of week 2 of the Minimalism Game Challenge!
This is question I get asked a lot: “How does your Husband feel about your hoarding?” My husband is patient, laid back and supportive in what I do. Except my hoarding, he hates my hoarding. He gets very frustrated with it and told me the top four things that frustrate him. First, he has a difficult time finding things because nothing is organized. Sometimes he has to purchase something we already have because it will take him “months” to find it again. And wasting money is not one of his favorite things. Secondly, he gets very upset tripping over piles of crap. That one REALLY frustrates him. Thirdly, he just gets tired at looking at all piles of clutter. Then he gets upset that it doesn’t bother me! (Until recently when I started this journey) Lastly, he wishes he can help me clean my piles but he cannot. He can’t because it will always create a fight between us. I always get overwhelmed and anxious and he just wants to keep cleaning. So he gave up on helping me clean so I would not get upset from my OCD hoarding panic attacks. Attached below is my vlog where I give more details about our relationship and the strain it has on our marriage:
This month I decided to play the 30 day Minimalism Game Challenge as a New Year’s resolution since I was doing a “No Spend January” to stop bringing more things into the house. I wanted to make sure more things were going out than coming in, so this is the perfect game for me to try! The rules are that on Day 1 you get rid of 1 thing, Day 2 you get rid of 2 things, Day 3 equals 3 things and so on. As you can see, it’s going to get intense on Day 20 and those higher days for a hoarder. Maybe even a typical person might struggle getting rid of about 465 things in one month. But I’m up for the challenge and documented week 1 in the video. If you have played the “30 Day Minimalism Game Challenge” I would love to heard about it in the comments below!
Finally!!! After months of clean out of this toy room, it is finally clean!!! This has been an emotional roller coaster with feelings of anxiety and frustration to joy and happiness. There were days I thought I would never get it done. But I kept going because baby steps still move you forward. Another huge part of keeping me motivated was documenting it all on my YouTube Channel. When you have people watching you and cheering you on, it keeps you cleaning out your hoard. I realized that short term goals and high accountability gets the best results for any personal achievement. I am learning to heal from my hoarding mindset. I have attached the video below so you can see my Before & After photos of my hoarded toy room.
I hope everyone had a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! I am back from a Holiday Break and ready to jump into 2019! This year I have 4 main resolutions but will be breaking them down to monthly short term goals so they are more achievable. First and most important is: Clean out and organize my entire 1st floor of my house. Second, complete the 30 day Minimalist Game Challenge in January. Next is complete a “No Spend January” to help boost my Debt Snowball. Lastly is complete Baby Step 2 and 3 in the Dave Ramsey Total Money Make Over Series. I have a video below with more details on each step!
I host Christmas Eve dinner every year and it’s always the same. I am in a mad rush to clean up everything before people come over. I normally don’t even enjoy that part of the holiday because I am in panic attack mode trying to shove my shit into the laundry room or basement. Below is a Christmas House Tour where you can see the progress I have made and some of the rooms that I keep hidden.
This Christmas I decided to scale back on gift giving and over spending on Holiday experiences. After finishing all the wrapping, I saw the amount of gifts I had and it triggered a panic attack. I am not kidding here, I know it sounds absurd but not giving a lot of gifts this year triggered an anxiety shock inside of me. I quickly went on Amazon to buy a few more gifts to ease my alarming nerves. I know that last sentence sounds obnoxious but it’s true. My love language for showing love is gift giving. So I show my love by giving the people I love multiple gifts. The more gifts I buy, the more love I am showing you. So when I only saw a few wrapped gifts, I panicked because I didn’t want to disappoint any of my loved ones. I didn’t want them to think I stopped caring about them. This is how my mind works as a hoarder. I attach an extreme value to ordinary items. In this video I share more in depth on my mini Christmas melt down:
In my last post I shared with you how I used to spend $3,000 on Christmas. That money sucking tradition is over. I really don’t want to do that again this year. Since I have so many nice new things in all my storage bins, I decided to do some regifting and make some crafts for gifts. A friend of mine gave me the idea that she was making gifts this Christmas. So I decided I would do the same things since I have an obnoxious amount of craft supplies on hand. Bonus it helps me follow my number 1 rule of “I need more things going out of my house than coming in!” As I was going through my craft supply bins, I found wreath wire, burlap ribbon, buffalo plaid ribbon and Christmas picks. I had bought them all at deep clearance last year. I made a beautiful burlap Christmas wreath for my Ladies Cookie Tasting and White Elephant Party for free! Well, sort of free, from money spent last year! In the video link below I shared a few regifting treasures and made a personalized Martini Shaker and Glass set for another girl’s Christmas dinner.
I shared before how Santa brings 25 gifts to each child for Christmas. This year is going to change. I know from past Christmases I could easily spend anywhere between $2,500-$3,000. This totals everything: gift-giving, dinners, parties, decorations, Christmas shows and experiences. Some of that would go on my charge card and some was cash. Luckily that’s all that is on my card and I could have it paid off by March. It’s crazy how fast one little holiday could add up to. The gifts to the children alone would be about $1,000. This has got to stop. Remember Susan Powter and the ” Stop the INSANITY!” slogan. Yeah, except I don’t need to lose weight, I need to lose this idea that I have to make the most magical Christmas every year. One could never be less than the previous year.
This Christmas will be focusing on being more frugal and enjoying the experiences more. Whether it’s visiting the local Tree Lighting ceremonies or taking the kids to see the local house lights in our area. No more expensive Christmas show, Train rides or Gingerbread Houses with Santa. Seriously, there was a make gingerbread house with Santa event and it was $50 per child. The second child is $10 off. So for $90 my kids came make a crappy cookie house and see Santa for 5 minutes. Sorry, I really dislike making gingerbread houses!! But the point is that I am going to focus more on fun frugal Christmas experiences this year.
As for presents, I have so many ladies’ dinners that have a white elephant present exchange. So $20-$25 gift limits there. The only positive thing about being a hoarder is: I have so many really nice new home décor that I have squirreled away in my house. I think it’s time to become a re-gifter or make a pretty craft with things I have. Luckily I am very crafty and bins upon bins of supplies. So that is how I am starting my December 1st! Vowing to cutting back on the cost of the holiday season and enjoying more family free experiences!
This weekend was super busy between hosting Thanksgiving, Black Friday shopping and decorating our house…I’m surprised I’m still functioning. But after going downstairs in the basement, I realized what was waiting for me: bins upon bins of Christmas decorations that I need to haul out. Ugh…I’m too tired, why do I have so much? Now don’t get me wrong, I LOVE Christmas and my house looks pretty all decorated but it’s so much work! My intention is to downsize some of my Christmas decorations but I am very emotionally attached to them. Those decorations tell a story of my Christmas during that year. This will be very hard for me to let go but I will take baby steps! I have to because I don’t want to look through 20+ bins every year!